NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER • Lisa Damour, Ph.D., director on the internationally renowned Laurel School’s Center for Research on Girls, pulls back the curtain for the teenage years and shows why your daughter’s erratic and confusing behavior is definitely healthy, necessary, and natural. Untangled explains what’s happening, prepares parents for what’s to return, and lets them know when it’s time and energy to worry.
In this sane, highly engaging, and informed guide for fogeys of daughters, Dr. Damour draws on decades of experience and also the latest research to show the seven distinct—and absolutely normal—developmental transitions that turn girls into grown-ups, including Parting with Childhood, Contending with Adult Authority, Entering the Romantic World, and Caring for Herself. Providing realistic scenarios and welcome guidance on how to engage daughters in smart, constructive ways, Untangled gives parents a large framework for understanding their daughters while addressing their most commonly encountered questions, including
• My thirteen-year-old rolls her eyes when I attempt to talk to her, simply does it more when I get angry back with her about it. How should I respond?
• Do I tell my teen daughter that I’m checking her phone?
• My daughter has test anxiety. What can I do to aid her?
• Where’s the cloths line between healthy eating all night . an eating disorder?
• My teenage daughter wishes to know why I’m against pot when it’s legal in most states. What should I say?
• My daughter’s friend is cutting herself. Do I call the girl’s mother to permit her know?
Perhaps most crucial, Untangled helps fathers and mothers understand, connect, and grow because of their daughters. When parents understand what makes their daughter tick, they’re able to embrace and relish the challenge of raising a normal, happy young woman.
Praise for Untangled
“Finally, there’s some good news for puzzled parents of adolescent girls, and psychologist Lisa Damour will be the bearer of this happy news. [Untangled] may be the most down-to-earth, readable parenting book I’ve discover in a period of time.”—The Washington Post
“Anna Freud wrote in 1958, ‘There are few situations in your life which are more challenging to cope with than a teen son or daughter over the attempt to liberate themselves.’ In the intervening decades, the transition doesn’t seem to have gotten any easier helping to make Untangled this type of welcome new resource.”—The Boston Globe
“Damour provides a hopeful, helpful new way for moms and dads to talk about—and with—teenage girls. . . . Parents would like this book on his or her shelves, close to established classics with the genre.”—Publishers Weekly
“For years folks have been asking me for that ‘girl same as Raising Cain,’ and I haven’t known exactly what to recommend. Now I do.”—Michael Thompson, Ph.D., co-author of Raising Cain
“An essential help guide to understanding and supporting girls on their development. It’s obvious that Dr. Damour ‘gets’ girls and understands the best opportinity for any adult to assist them navigate the normal yet difficult challenges a lot of girls face.”—Rosalind Wiseman, author of Queen Bees & Wannabes
“A gem. From the moment I read a final page I’ve been recommending it to my clients (including people with sons!) and colleagues, and ultizing it as a refreshing guide around my own work together with teenagers along with their parents.”—Wendy Mogel, Ph.D., author of The Blessing of an Skinned Knee